Two important lessons I’ve learn

It’s Monday and it’s the first day of my work. It was supposed to commence on next Wednesday but due to the work from home measure implemented by the government, we have to report to work today to collect our laptop.

Anyway there’s a bit of holdup in the IT department and we can’t get our laptops yet. My data has already bursted and there’s 0.8GB more to paying $10 more sooo I’m definitely avoiding all data usage right now. I’m bored out of my wits so I’ve decided to do a short writing here.

Today I’ve decided to write about 2 important lessons I’ve learn. There are definitely a lot more things I’ve experienced and learned throughout the years but during my poly years, I felt like these 2 points were my biggest takeaways.

Firstly, it is to not have expectations of people(even closed friends and families). When we expect people to do things for us, most of the times we get disappointed because people have their own responsibilities and obligations to fulfill as well and in the very end, everyone has to put themselves first in some way. The number of times I’ve been disappointed because of my expectations is just countless. I used to be sad and angry at that person but I came to realise that everyone is on their own. If we don’t put any expectations of people in the first place, we won’t feel such deep disappointment and will have to rely on oneself to pick and build yourself up.

My second biggest lesson is to stop victimising yourself. A lot of times when we face with obstacles, we tend to blame others on the situation. As an introvert person, I tend to avoid conflicts as much as possible. This resulted in a lot of people undermine or take advantage of me, and I just let it slide. But the resentment is still inside me and I end up complaining to my close friends. However, one day, I heard my favourite lecturer say that we young people tend to self victimised and push the blame on others. I came to realise that was true for me. When people step over me, why do I let it slide?? Why am I not coming forward instead to stop whatever that’s happening to me? 

After the enlightenment, I realised that I have the power to control whatever that’s happening to me and our mind is really a powerful tool. Whatever you tell yourself that you are then that is what you will be. 

So in conclusion, learn to be independent and to fight for your own opportunities because everyone is on their own and you can’t expect people to always be there with you.

Hopes these simple thoughts resonates well with you! 

Love, 

Wei